Top Three Things Girls Should Never Say to Men

by Pat Balo

1) “I feel safe with you.” – This statement is seriously emasculating as it implies that the girl does not consider the man as someone with the capability of sweeping her off her feet with his charm and sensuality. This is vastly different from “You make me feel safe”, which is empowering, connoting that the man is capable of safeguarding the girl from the ills of the world.

2) “Parang kuya kita”. (You’re like an older brother to me)– Again, emasculating. Unless meant in a freaky kind of way, of course. By referring to a guy as a “kuya”, the girl is effectively saying that she is completely unaffected by his sexuality. The only time “Kuya” is not insulting is when a younger girl in a church choir uses it to address the older mentor (and you know where that leads)

3) “Di ba gwapo naman si (insert name here)” (Isn’t (name) handsome?) – The vast majority of men cannot and will not admit that they consider another man “handsome”. Hard as we try to appear worldly and modern, the fact of the matter is, we can’t undo hundreds of years of indoctrination.